I was going to start this post out by saying that I wish that I could make my font bigger so it would look like I have more to say. Then, the "try new blogger interface" button was all up in my face and, low and behold bigger font. It's really not making that big of a difference but, I just don't like to read small letters sometimes. Coincidentally, it wasn't a font size issue, it was a font type issue I was having.
I'm puzzled as to why I picked today to post since I am in a bratty mood. I'm aware of the reasons and I think that laying them all out there will help change my frequency and not be a brat. I keep telling myself that I have no reason being as I comfortably fit into my size 2 corduroys this morning after weeks and weeks of feeling chubby. Yes, I know, size 2 and chubby don't belong in the same sentence. Except in this case.
Hubby has been on midnight shift this week which is causing the mood. Which seems a bit backwards since he is the one working it and not me. Needless to say, if it were me working it, this would be way worse. I'm finding it troubling to wake up with a dose of bitter after having a good night with my girls from church, a whole night of sleep, and my Christmas shopping practically complete. I just have to keep reminding myself that the Lord is with me and teaching me something. Part of which was get my work done that has been sitting on my desk for too many days. Bury myself in my work and worry about your mood later. Well, that took all of 45 minutes. I still have more to do but would rather be doing this.
I'm just going to go ahead and switch gears altogether. So, on Thanksgiving Eve Hubby and I were baptized. Pretty cool, right? Yeah, it is. We got a video of it and I would have put it on here but, I don't have it right now and after watching it, I have discovered my voice does not match my face and it's just weird to watch myself. The work the Lord has done in our life in the last year is absolutely incredible. It's simply amazing what He can do to a heart.
I wrestled with the devil that day. I had had plenty of time to put my testimony into words. Weeks. However, I did it when most people would have. A couple of hours before hand but' not a couple minutes like Hubby did. I sent out the prayer request text message to my girls and was finally able to pin it down after several taps of the backspace key. Pastor Jim had me all stressed out because he asked us to keep it fairly brief. I struggled with that. I found it odd how I can think that I don't have a testimony and not be able to put it in so many words at he same time. I feared that I would just go on and on.
It went a little something like this but not this long: I grew up in a church home/family. We went to a small church that I remember very clearly. We, meaning my siblings and I, went to Sunday school and Vacation Bible School. My Sunday School teacher's name was Lucy. She was a heavy set woman with a lazy eye and a passion for the Lord and for us children to know Him. The Pastor was a small man who, I believe, is still involved with the church in one way or another. Perhaps how Pastor Jim is involved at our church where he is supposed to be retired but the congregation won't let him. The Lord has certain plans for these men I suppose, and they know that.
I couldn't really pinpoint when we stopped going to that church. We had attended with my Nan, who is my mother's mother. I remember attending a different church with my father's parents for some time as well. This would have been when I was older. I was just "doing" church at this time. I couldn't even say who the Pastor was. I can tell you it was a massive church and the organ was exceptional. I love a good organ.
Some years later my Nan had found a different church that we started to attend regularly. This would have been about, let's say 13 years ago. I was working and in college. I would say that I was still just doing church at this point. I was no doubt a believer. I was even elected as a deacon. The Lord was speaking to me through the Pastor. Hubby was coming to church as well. Pastor had a way of explaining the Word to me so that I completely understood. It was good. It was my church family at the time. Hubby and I were married there by the Pastor.
However, there was a scandal. I don't know the details nor do I want to. Or maybe I do but I suppose there is still some denial on my part that the whole thing happened. The end result was Pastor left the church and his wife and boys. My parents divorced. No, it's not a coincidence. I'll turn Forrest Gump on you and say "That's all I have to say about that." The new Pastor that came in was not getting through to me. I need enthusiasm and he was just too soft spoken. I couldn't hear the Lord through him. I suppose I stopped going there right before Eden was born which would be about seven years ago.
I tried only a handful of different churches in the time I left there and the time I found my new church home. We had tried the Byzantine Catholic church that Hubby had attended growing up. I tried. I did. It just wasn't a fit. I constantly prayed for the Lord to lead us to our new church home. I felt that He was OK with me not attending, or maybe he wasn't, but I knew when the time was right, He would lead us in the right direction.
At the same time I was praying for Him to lead us to a new church home, I was praying for my marriage. I was having a heck of time. I wasn't happy. I read a couple books about what I should be doing to put the marriage where it should be. The Power of a Praying Wife. Good book. My beloved sister-in-law referred it to me. It seemed to me that nothing was working.
I have to back track. Shortly after Eden was born, Hubby confessed to me that he had an addiction problem which we worked through. I will admit that I am extremely naive. I had no idea but, I knew that it was something that could be dealt with. However, about two or three years ago, I started to recognize the pattern. I didn't confront him which resulted in a lot of resentment for a long time. Volatile fights. Words only but, they still hurt. After many months of this behavior the Lord presented a situation. In February of this year, in the middle of one of our snowiest days of the year. If not only snowiest day. Hubby received a text and said that he was going out. This was common, although it was later in the evening and there was several inches of fresh snow on the ground. I questioned him before he left. Key words there, "before he left." I was able to prove the next day that old habits had resurfaced. I waited until after Eden's birthday and I left and stayed with my mother.
There had been other times in the prior years that I thought that I would leave. I prayed about it. This was the right time. The Lord never left my side.
We sought counseling with Pastor. This is our main Pastor. I know, I refer to a lot of people as Pastor. Sorry. I never pictured Hubby and I in a counseling session. I knew that we should be, I just didn't think we would actually go. I was relieved when Pastor was able to enlighten Hubby of my feelings without me having to say a word. He was saying things that were so accurate about what I was feeling. It was such a relief to have him understand and be able to interpret to Hubby for me. It was so cool. What was not cool was my new thought process. I was thinking, "I have the Pastor on my side, I've been fighting with this guy for years, I've done all I could, and I was finally out." It was somewhat relieving. Here's why I say "somewhat." I knew what the Bible said about divorce and I knew that it couldn't be this easy. (Although the world sure makes it look like it is. Annoying.) I just knew that the Lord was not going to allow it but, I sure did act like it sometimes. I considered it and then I prayed about it. I repeatedly put my questions at the Lord's feet.
I could see a lot of changes that Hubby was making. I just didn't know if it was genuine. Pastor would say the same thing to me but, he believed that he was. It was also awkward. There were times that Hubby was trying to get me to come back home and it was just too soon. I continued to pray and wait to know what to do.
I can't pinpoint the time but, the Lord got a hold my heart. He told me it was time to go home. After three months, I packed up everything I had moved to my mom's and went back home. I don't regret a second of it. I know that I made the right decision and the marriage is where it should be. Hubby and I are on our faith walk together just like it should be. I can't say it's perfect. Especially, since I was crabby about his work shift earlier in this post. It is the best it's ever been. I can't say completely but, very, very different than before. I don't say completely because we're still the same knuckleheads we were before.
This church the Lord led us to is the reason that this turned out the way they did. If we had not been in that church with those people that care about us it would have turned out completely different. When I first started coming to church, I was probably still "just doing" church. Then, last fall when Pastor spoke on Matthew 12:25 "Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them, "Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand." That opened my ears because I knew He was talking to me about my house. Instead of "just doing," I immediately got involved in numerous ministries. I immediately was welcome and felt comfortable. The difference between doing church and being a part of the church family is knowing our Lord and Savior and know how He died on the cross for us. It's an overwhelming feeling and I am so excited to celebrate His birth in eleven days. Thank you Jesus.